Not sure if the ‘doggy style’ is a sin

Dear Pastor,

My husband and I have been married for two years, but before we got married, the counsellor told us that to prevent our marriage, and particularly sex from being boring, we should try and do different positions.

My husband is a very muscular man and I cannot bear every position that easily, but I must say that he is very cooperative. I like us to do the missionary style. I never get tired doing so. I think that it is because at my church, when we have discussions for couples, most of the older women raise their hands in support of the missionary style. Some rather call it the 'male above' position. They say this can get a woman pregnant easier than any other position. I have never got pregnant and that is because we are not ready for a child. I am still on contraceptives. I will be graduating from university in 2024 and after graduation, my husband and I are going to go on a cruise, then we can think about having a child.

I really want to discuss this problem about whether it is right for Christian couples to engage in certain positions. My husband likes me, from time to time, to go on top of him. I enjoy that too because when I get tired, I stop. I have even fallen asleep on top and my good husband rolls me over, covers me, and allows me to sleep. Several times I have fallen asleep, and when I am awake, my husband is watching television, so I just go back to bed.

Is it true that Christians should never practise the 'doggy style' position? My husband likes this position, but I find it a little painful sometimes. Some people say that it is not right. One of my friends discussed it with me and she calls these Christians hypocrite. Kindly comment on this question; my husband and I would benefit from your comment.

T.C.

Dear T.C.,

Couples, whether they are Christians or non-Christians, should not be made to feel that it is wrong for them to learn how to pleasure themselves in their bedroom.

I believe that parsons, priests or elders should not give the impressions that they have the authority to tell their members what they should do. There are 66 books in the Bible (the authorised version) and it has enough for every preacher to find a topic on which they should preach. As I see it, no preacher has a right to tell the couples in their churches what position they ought to engage in during the act of lovemaking.

Your husband and you know what both of you enjoy doing. I know for sure, from what you have said, you are having a grand time. I trust that as soon as you are ready to have a child, that you would do so and that will not hinder you from living happily together. I wish both of you well.

Pastor